tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20287373.post4669726898655151609..comments2024-03-18T13:07:43.490-07:00Comments on My Carpe Diem Life: Are you in Limerence? More about romantic love..My Carpe Diem Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03634613777764131234noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20287373.post-13454838342660776212013-08-24T12:33:57.242-07:002013-08-24T12:33:57.242-07:00How to get "out of limerence"? Well, I&#...How to get "out of limerence"? Well, I'm not expert, but maybe the ebooks found at http://www.gramps.org/limerence/ might help.<br /><br />I once read a book on how to fall out of love with someone. The main thing I remember about it was that you were supposed to remind yourself daily of all their bad qualities. That feels like a pretty negative approach to me. I think somehow you just have to take the LO off the pedestal, or maybe try raising yourself up so that you spend more time feeling good about yourself and less time thinking about your LO? Good luck!My Carpe Diem Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03634613777764131234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20287373.post-33138867665054979322013-08-24T08:54:10.073-07:002013-08-24T08:54:10.073-07:00I am in limerence and i hate it, the problem is th...I am in limerence and i hate it, the problem is that i cant get out of it...any ideas?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20287373.post-12928471175401224532010-10-27T09:30:27.538-07:002010-10-27T09:30:27.538-07:00To clarify, this woman and I weren't dating/ro...To clarify, this woman and I weren't dating/romatically involved/having sex**we were "just friends" (both in other relationships) but with a powerful physical attraction between us.<br /><br />Physical attraction + friendship doesn't seem to be enough to start the limerence cycle. I've had strong limerence connections to women where the physical attraction was there, certainly, but not as powerful as this case.<br /><br />--The Phantom CommenterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20287373.post-75936978972853699082010-10-26T13:41:09.642-07:002010-10-26T13:41:09.642-07:00Rebecca, yes, the mature "oatmeal" love ...Rebecca, yes, the mature "oatmeal" love sounds very comforting and peaceful... much better than dramatic limerence!<br /><br />Phantom Commenter, you sound concerned that you don't feel "limerence" but from what I've read about it, it's probably better that you don't feel it. It's what will make you crazy and put your LO up on a pedastal which is not where she should be. If you can find someone your physically and emotionally attracted to and not "blinded" by limerence, then maybe you've found real love...My Carpe Diem Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03634613777764131234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20287373.post-56283430203168531392010-10-26T11:32:59.345-07:002010-10-26T11:32:59.345-07:00You'd think that if you really really like som...You'd think that if you really really like someone and are also sexually very attracted to them, then the limerence symptoms would happen automatically. For me at least it's not guaranteed//I'm thinking especially about one female friend I loved talking to & spending time with, and also felt such a strong desire for her it was almost painful**but didn't feel the limerence symptom's I've felt with others.<br /><br />-The Phantom CommenterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20287373.post-7766092395667689832010-10-23T08:48:21.865-07:002010-10-23T08:48:21.865-07:00Nick Yee's article, in which he talks about th...Nick Yee's article, in which he talks about the "oatmeal" love seems the most realistic way to view a longterm relationship. <br /><br />There was a time in my life when I worried my husband and I would run out of things to talk about. Now he regularly calls me to mention a story he heard on the radio he thinks I might like or reads me snippits from an article. This is the deepness of a "shared life". I happen to like it far more than limerence because drama can get pretty exhausting.rebecca @ altared spaceshttp://altaredspaces.com/noreply@blogger.com