He knew I'd be interested because I've often debated whether the world would be better if we were always 100% honest. I came to the conclusion that there were times when dishonesty was OK and wrote a blog post about 5 Good Reasons to be Dishonest.
The movie is about a world where lying is unheard of. Everyone says whatever is on their minds, however embarrassing or rude. It starts with a blind date between beautiful Jennifer Garner and Ricky Gervais. Jennifer (I think her name was Anna in the movie) expresses her disappointment at her lack of attraction for her date as soon as she meets him. She notes that he's fat and has a snub nose. The waiter also says to them both that she's out of his league.
As much as we hate to admit it, this judgment of how attractive someone is, is probably the first thing that goes through all of our minds when sizing someone up for dating. The first question you ask yourself is, "Am I attracted to how this person looks?"
We all know that there are a lot of things that are more important than looks. I just read this morning a blog post, Beyond Face Value. Dating Goddess says:
Sometimes I can remember to look beyond the surface, but I admit I also fall prey to deleting online profiles of men who sound good when reading their description, but their pictures aren’t “my type.” It’s a common complaint that daters don’t give others a chance if they don’t look appealing. It’s also a common fear that when you meet someone for that first coffee encounter, they will turn on their heel without even saying hello once they see you.
She reminds us to look beyond the surface. Yeah, yeah. This all sounds good in theory. I certainly can love a person for their personality. But what about the passion that comes from that physical attraction? Should we give up on finding that? Is it settling if we partner up with someone who we just don't find physically attractive?
What do you think?